Why always me?

Yesterday Zach had hockey and there was an incident and I got very mad at a stupid blind ref. Now one parent on the team told Jimmy that I swore but I really didn't and that made me angry because it's always me who does or says something wrong. However this same parent as I sat down to watch the game tells me: Did you hear that my older son showed the middle finger to a ref during a game. Now I ask you that is appropriate, that is something to be proud of. But whatever I say or do is wrong or bad. What I do as an adult is my business and mine alone Jimmy is my husband not my father, if you need to parent someone parent your child that obviously has no manner towards people to show them the middle finger....

That is my thought on that and I needed to vent.